How do I know if I need counselling?  

If you feel unsure, looking at my home page may help you decide.  Coming to counselling should be your decision and not because someone else says you should or must do it.

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Why don't people just talk to friends and relatives instead?

Many people talk to friends and relatives when they feel distressed and find it useful but for some this is just not possible. Perhaps the problem upsets the other person too much or they might not want to burden friends who are dealing with their own problems.  Maybe the problem feel too embarrassing. Sometimes a person to whom we might normally turn to for help is involved in the situation (or the cause of the problem). Some friends and relatives might readily give advice without really listening or use the opportunity to turn the conversation around to their own life.  You may be worried that someone will not keep private what you tell them. A counsellor can help you to explore your concerns more objectively, lessen your distress and find a way through problems and difficult situations within a confidential context.

 

Is counselling confidential?

Usually, what clients tell counsellors is kept confidential.  However there are exceptions such as if there is a serious risk of harm to you or others but also certain legal situations (such as suspicion of terrorist activity) where disclosures must be made to a relevant body or authority. If counsellors do plan to make a disclosure, they will (wherever possible and legal to do so) discuss this with the client. Counsellors are ethically bound to have a specialised form of professional mentoring with another qualified and experienced therapist.  This is called 'supervision' and ensures they fulfil their ethical commitments and work to professional standards. ​​

 

Will I feel better straight away?

Many people report feeling a sense of relief at having taken the first step, talked about their problems, been listened to and understood. However, it is important to build upon this initial phase with further work. As time goes by, some people notice small changes whilst others make sudden, big leaps forward. Some people see the changes in themselves whilst for others, it is their partner or friends who notice a positive change. Everyone has a different experience of counselling.​

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